Some people think kids should never be given a thumbs-down. In this video, Brene Brown explains why that is dangerously misguided.

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Watch this. Really. Take the 15 minute coffee break, because reading the transcript can’t convey the power of what Brene shares halfway through, when she’s talking about getting the thumbs-up or thumbs-down from a swim coach, and why hope has its roots in failure.