A difficult childhood isn’t something you just get over as you grow up.
Here’s your permission to acknowledge it, and approach it, as a healing journey.
(For a long time, I thought it was such a cliche to have “childhood issues”, especially given that I wasn’t horribly abused, and that my job as a grown up was just to pull up my socks and march forth with a positive attitude and a willingness to leave all that and any wallowing behind me… But guess what? Diminishing your own hurts doesn’t help heal them. Just because someone else had a leg amputated doesn’t mean you should ignore your own cuts and scrapes and bruises. Any injury can get infected if not treated. Treat yourself as a beautiful organism who deserves tending and nurturing and healing energy. No matter where on “the trauma spectrum” you lie. In that way, you build up your own mental health, and your ability to uplift and support everyone around you. That’s what I’ve come to realize and appreciate as an actual grown-up. If you’re generous enough to yourself to treat your own hurts, wounds, bumps, scrapes and traumas, that generosity then spills out of you to the rest of the world. And you know, we really do need more generosity of spirit, in general. Also, I now have the backing of Oprah. She’s all about it. See this great video interview from Telluride this year.)
Learn more about how your childhood impacts your health in the long run in this wonderful TED talk from paediatrician, Dr Nadine Burke Harris. It’s a wonderful and powerful call to action to take your own story seriously.