Why your depressed friend doesn’t need you to send her a link to that article about 7 habits of mentally tough people

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Excuse the raw language.

But I appreciated the sentiment powerfully enough to overlook it. (Hope you will too.)

I have a friend I suspect is struggling with depression. My friend should win an Academy Award. My friend covers it up really really well.

I read this article, though, and realised that I have not, for my suspicions, offered the kind of safe place that is needed, to genuinely help. (I offer pep talks and solutions and rousing rallying speeches. And ideas. I’ve got a ton of ideas on how to shake off some of the negative, stress-causing situations.)

No, I’ve fallen a long way short of offering what I think is probably most wanted:

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Read the whole post. I can’t do it justice. Just take 5 minutes and click through and read it.

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I think, given the toxic state of our mental environment (if you’ve ever read an Adbusters magazine, you won’t flinch at the extremism of that phrase), it’s safe to say we all know someone who is suffering from depression. So reading this article is like learning CPR. It’s acquiring a basic and important life skill.

This year, I vowed to stop clicking on articles that promised me 6 steps to happiness, productivity hacks, or keystone habits to transform me into a better higher-functioning more successful version of myself. Then I faltered and clicked on this: 5 Habits Mentally Tough People Embrace Every Day. And I thought, BLECH. Why did I do that? And then I thought, Yikes. That sounds pretty much like the drivel I’ve been offering my friend. Won’t be doing that again.

A perky ponytail, when someone needs a couch to curl up on, probably seems like a slap in the face.

So, here’s to the courageous ones. Just like the feisty quote at the top says.

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