"So what do we do about all the pain we see in the world? All the pain we feel our own lives? And why does it seem that our best efforts to help somebody feel better always backfire?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2zLCCRT-nE This wonderful piece by Megan Devine is a wise and mind-opening teaching on how to help … Continue reading The way to help someone feel better is to let them be in pain
I felt pretty sheepish messaging Tracey on Facebook - it was the kind of invitation that warranted a hand-hold, or a hug, or at least some eye contact - but I'd had a powerful 2am thought, and was emboldened to ask, in case, perhaps, it was the universe that was nudging me, and not just … Continue reading Do you mind if we talk about grief?
Yesterday, I shared about honing my grief skills when I lost my mom. Sometimes I feel like people who are devoted to one religion have an easier time when dealing with death. They have such a concrete vision of where their loved ones go. This week my nine year old daughter pulled me in tight … Continue reading The Many Forms of Those You Love
Six years ago my mom died and I Googled how to grieve. In our Western world, nobody really talks about death, and certainly nobody teaches us how to grieve. How is it that I, then a 32 year old mother of two, raised by a loving, tuned-in and involved family, turned to Google when faced … Continue reading Grief and the Passing of Time
I originally passed on the idea of choosing a single word I wanted to embrace for 2018 when my life guru Lisa Richardson first put it out there. Nope - not now. Too busy, not feeling introspective enough. But this idea of a “word” to guide me for the coming months kept swirling in … Continue reading ISO: A Porous Life
Three months have gone by since we lost him. "Lost" isn't really the right word. It's not like he ran off into the woods never to be seen again, or that we misplaced him. It is 3 months ago that we made the gut-wrenchingly hard decision to say goodbye to our most beloved four-legged family … Continue reading On the loss of a pet: Grief takes up residence at Zoé Martin’s place
As we approach another season of Festivus I remember those who are no longer with us. For my family, Christmas was always a time to be together, laugh and eat really delicious food. When we would snuggle up on the couch and spend quality time. Holidays are a time for celebration where traditions are made … Continue reading Seasons Grieving
There's this song that goes, The thing about grief is It gets kind've boring for the People who don't yet know. Your friends - some they will wander off and Most will wish you'd just move on sister. But black is the colour 'cause it Doesn't seem to have an end which strikes me as … Continue reading The thing about grief is…