The bravest day of the year

 

Signal Hill has one of the highest ratios of aboriginal students in the province – 40% of the elementary age kids come from a First Nations background. That means, two out of every five kids in the school come from a culture for whom school is not a safe place – not a refuge for fun and learning – but an institution with deep associations of abuse, fear, and cataclysmic loss.

Vice Principal Clare Hanbury has been at Signal Hill for ten years. She says, “I’d noticed that there was not a big connection with the First Nations families here, and I knew that location wasn’t the only reason. Just because they live a little bit further out? That wasn’t the whole deal. There was something else.”

Hanbury’s hunch was right. But it took a thousand acts of courage before something could shift.

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Two things happened when the Truth and Reconciliation Report was released in April 2015: Hanbury began talking about doing something in the school to address the issue and try to change that dynamic, and the educational curriculum changed.

“Learning about residential schools is part of the curriculum now,” says Hanbury, “which is a huge step.”

Hanbury and her colleage, Tanina Williams, an Aboriginal cultural support worker at Signal Hill, took the lead on teaching the classes about residential schools. But they didn’t want to deliver heavy-hitting material to the community’s five to twelve year olds, without offering something positive, too.

The challenge of how to turn the topic into a healing opportunity was taken up by Williams, who is also a traditional Lil’wat wool-weaver. She conceived the idea of teaching the kids to wool-weave blankets. Each student in a participating classroom would weave a small piece that would be combined into a blanket to be given to a local elder, a survivor of the residential school system, as a gesture of love and healing.

“Traditional wool weaving is local to this area, so they’d be learning something cultural,” says Williams. “In our culture, when you learn how to make something, you gift the product of that learning. You don’t get to keep it because your gift was learning the skill. And when you make a garment, you put your love into it. As First Nations people, we call that ‘good work.’ I’d ask the kids, ‘If we’re going to make a blanket for somebody, what kind of energy do we want to put into it?’”

Wool-weaving is a frustrating activity, especially when you’re first learning. Every week, Williams would remind them: “If you get frustrated, put it down for a minute or two and centre yourself. It’s just a practice. I don’t expect you to be good at it. But I expect you to be mindful about it.”

In the meantime, Hanbury was working with other staff and volunteers to try and identify residential school survivors from the communities.

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Each survivor was then hand-delivered a personal invitation to attend a blanket ceremony on June 22, by a family member from the school.

It was a risky proposition. Williams and Hanbury weren’t sure how the invitations would be received, if they’d retraumatize people, if anyone would even respond.

On the Monday before the event, Signal Hill was expecting 12 attendees. Hundreds of hours by 18 different classes had gone into making blankets, and a group of grade 6 and 7 students had spent weeks preparing the ceremony.

Then things got out of hand.

“People were showing up here saying, I heard about this event, can I bring my wife? People we’d never met before. They’d just heard about it and thought it was a really good thing,” says Hanbury.

A last minute blanket-making blitz took place – Willams’ mom, Hanbury’s mom, a parent.

“We were not going to turn anyone away.”

Right up to the morning of the event, more survivors were being identified.

“One student said, ‘My parents went to residential school.’

‘Well, we’ve got to call them.’

They came with no absolutely no notice,” Hanbury recalls.

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“Another student said, ‘What about my grandma Linda?’

‘Okay, I’ve got to call her too!’”

And as the assembly room began to fill, something incredible happened.

Children draped love-infused hand-woven blankets around the shoulders of the most courageous people in our communities, the survivors of residential schools, who’ve tried silently for decades to protect their children and grandchildren from the worst experiences of their lives.

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One 40-something father of a grade 5 and a grade 7 student set foot on the school grounds for the very first time, to attend the ceremony that day. “He’s been like a mystery man for the last seven years,” says Hanbury. “I think it was really hard for him. But he came. He even spoke.”

A couple of days later, he was back, right up the front of the room proudly taking photos of his daughter’s graduation.

breanna&maryannAnother elder said it was the best day of her 73 year long life. Recalls Hanbury, “She’s been working in this school since 1979 and she said she’s never felt fully truly welcome or appreciated until that day. She said this is what she’s been waiting for.”

“We all need to be brave,” says Williams. “All of Canada needs to be brave in this, to be able to face that this happened. How do you cope with it? It’s a lot. Everybody needs to heal from it.”

Says Hanbury, “The kids have done a great job. It’s been so amazing how they’ve managed to take it in.”

“And they put their love into it,” says Williams.

Echoes Hanbury, “They really did.”

Now, the Signal Hill Elementary School has meaningful relationships with 31 survivors of residential schools who are willing to come and talk to the students about their experiences. “It’s definitely going to change the way we talk about this. It’s not going to be me. It’s going to be somebody who had that experience,” says Williams. “I think that will really change our community.”

A door, just as Hanbury hoped, has swung open.

Photos courtesy of Randy Lincks.

 

 

 

 

9 thoughts on “The bravest day of the year

  1. judithhoilett says:

    Truly opening doors to the winds of change!

    On Tue, Jul 5, 2016 at 8:48 AM, The Winds of Change wrote:

    > Lisa Richardson posted: ” Signal Hill has one of the highest ratios of > aboriginal students in the province – 40% of the elementary age kids come > from a First Nations background. That means, two out of every five kids in > the school come from a culture for whom school is not” >

    • Lisa Richardson says:

      Right, Judith? Clare and Tanina were so mindful of the opportunity and responsibility on a school – having once been the tool for doing so much damage, turning that around and becoming a tool for healing and reconciliation. Unbelievably inspiring. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

  2. Linda Dan says:

    Yes that was a amazing how this was taking care of our history right here in the school and I was part of that..had no idea till that very morning. .sure was emotional to witness this day and to be one to relieve the blanket ..my grandson gave my name as that day before coming home from his soccer tournament we drove by the mission residential school I was at.He was shocked when I told him yes I went there. That morning I get a call if I can come..if I did attend residential. Made it on my lunch hr. Was so happy to make it and see all the children’s smiles in what they have done …lots of love .💖 I am the Linda 😊😁

    • Lisa Richardson says:

      Amazing! Thanks for sharing, Linda. So glad you were able to make it at the very last minute! Much love, back at you. Lisa

  3. Kara jones says:

    What a great idea for IRS survivors, the family and the students of SHE. I think more of this needs to be done. As healing, awareness and teaching. The stories I have been told from my grandparents and seen the effects it has on our community to this day is saddening. We need more empowerment and understanding. Thank you for sharing your stories, and thank you for the gifts for the survivors.

    • Lisa Richardson says:

      Thanks for your comments, Kara. Maybe one of the biggest outcomes is some kind of permission to tell these stories? And a willingness to listen? And maybe healing, empowerment and understanding comes from that? It seems powerful to me, to have elders and children brought together in this way. Thanks again for taking the time to comment.

  4. Richard Moore says:

    These kind of events are the means by which the children will learn the culture and traditions of a proud Nation ! The truth and History from first settlement by the strangers has been hidden , skewed and distorted as the attempted genocide ravaged their territories and the First Nation Peoples struggled to maintain their sharing culture while everything was being taken away including their children ! I am amazed at the tolerance that was exhibited and the tremendous amount of culture lore that has been handed down for millennia and is still practiced . T’szil (Mt.Currie) has a school which I am ever grateful for having participated in and like every non resident teacher I spoke with , they all basically said the same thing : That they learned far more valuable things than they were able to teach ! I would humbly suggest that an exchange program between Signal Hill and T’szil School would serve to help heal the inter generational plague and racial scars of the residential school era ! ALL MY RELATIONS

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