The Rules of the Road, Dating, and Everything Else.
The photographer and former Pemberton Secondary School valedictorian (class of 2006) was up for it. Having spent some time personally “learning about how to make healthy choices, create healthy relationships, and take care of myself as a whole”, Le Blanc thought it would be useful to share some of her habits and interests, in a medium that’s a natural forum for expression for a design and photography graduate.
Amie Le Blanc took the keys to the instagram account (instagram.com/thewellnessalmanac) for a week, and as requested, explored what home, community and wellness mean, to her. “It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay if some of the things that make me happy, aren’t ‘cool’ or ‘exciting’,” Le Blanc said.
One of her posts featured the rules for dating, from a book called Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate by Stan Tatkin, which are so freaking enlightened I want to hand them out on business cards and post them on the back of washroom doors – especially given the way Le Blanc framed them as commandments for healthy relationships.
Substitute “new parents”, “creative teams” “travelling buddies” or “housemates” for “dating partners” and see if you don’t agree that this could make the world a better place:
“Dating partners keep each other safe and secure; even if they don’t know each other well, they always protect one another. Dating partners move quickly to repair any hurts that occur in their new relationship. Dating partners recognize they are in a process of joint exploration, and they help one another learn about each other. Dating partners practice true mutuality; regardless of their individual styles of relating, they know that what is good for one is good for the other.”
As Amie captioned the post: “these are seriously great guidelines for considering whether your relationship with someone is working, platonic or not.”
See, there are rules that make life easier. Saying please and thank you are the elementary ones. (“When you say please, I feel appreciated,” I tell my kid. And then you’re a lot more likely to get what you want, is the subtext that he seems to be cottoning on to.)
Eventually, we graduate to more refined ways of managing the friction of human interactions: Never teach your significant other to ski or snowboard. If at all possible avoid being the person teaching your kids to drive.
We don’t need a manual to guide us through life, despite the appeal of Marie Kondo’s promise of zenned out bliss if you fold your underwear like upright soldiers and ascribe to The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
We just need common sense.
And driving school instructors.
Something Pemberton (and Whistler and Mt Currie and Lillooet) has been lacking forever… and something that has just changed, as Carrie Turchinetz launches the Sea to Sky Driving School.
Hallelujah, say local parents, and well we should.
A BCAA factsheet on teenage drivers says the number one cause of death among teenagers in BC is car crashes. Fifty-four 16-20 year olds are killed each year, thousands more injured, with new drivers almost 45% more likely to be involved in a crash than experienced drivers. Teenage drivers are overrepresented in car crashes and fatalities, and often, it’s not the driver, but their passengers who are killed.
I’m investing a lot of time and energy into my kid. I feel quite invested in him making it through his teenage years. So I’m hoping that Turchinetz’ new driving school goes from strength to strength.
Carrie Turchinetz doesn’t cite those statistics as her motivation, but she was a paramedic for 13 years, driving ambulances up and down the Sea to Sky Highway in all conditions, and she’s seen first hand what driving inexperience and a sketchy road can do. Anecdotally, she’d estimate that more than a third of the calls she responded to could be attributed to inexperienced drivers.
“I’ve had plenty of opportunities to see my fill of what that highway offers,” says Turchinetz, now a professional driving instructor, licensed by the BC Motor Vehicle Branch. “I’m determined to create safe drivers one lesson at a time.”